At first glance, Bridget Jones isn’t someone I’d be friends with: she’s incredibly self-centered, is constantly whining about not having a boyfriend, and lets her mother control her fashion choices (something I haven’t done since I was three).
However, there’s one thing that Bridget is: relatable. And when a relatable person learns relatable life lessons, you end up understanding a few new things yourself. And even though Bridget Jones’ Diary hasn’t led me to any lifechanging realizations, the book was a fun reminder of a few pieces of wisdom I was already familiar with. These are some of them.
1. I should probably keep a diary.
When I was little, I wrote in my diary everyday, and did that for so long that now I have at least eight notebooks full of fun stories and thoughts from my childhood. I stopped when I turned thirteen or fourteen, and since then I’ve been writing occasionally – sometimes I buy a new joutnal, write for a few days and then stop, or type away my thoughts on a word document, which is very easy but not as charming as writing on a beautiful notebook. Lately, I’ve been doing none of these things, and Bridget reminded me that that needs to change. I need a diary.
2. Always bring a change of clothes to a costume party.
Just in case you get there and, you know… everybody else is NOT in costume. Oh, and if you forget the change of clothes and realize you’re the only person dressed like a sexy rabbit – just own it.
3. You are not defined by your weight (or the amount of calories you consume).
Bridget’s diary entries always started with her current weight and calories consumed on that day, which means she weighed herself everyday. While being careful with what we eat and our health in general is great, the number on the scale says literally nothing about who we are, and what matters. Bridget shared her weight with her readers till the end, but she learned (I think) to cope with it a little better once she found someone she loved. Hopefully, we don’t need a boyfriend in order to accept our bodies nowadays – but even if we do, know that there’s so much more to you as a person than your body mass.
4. Moms have crisis too.
Mothers are often seen as superwomen (and that’s because they are superwomen), but that doesn’t mean they don’t have their problems too. Often putting their children first, moms sometimes forget to take care of themselves, until one day they realize something (or lots of things) has to change. It happened to Bridget’s mom, and even though Bridget didn’t really understand why her mother Pam suddently decided to get a job after 40 years and have an affair with a mysterious portuguese man, there was a reason to all of this – and chances are, all she needed was someone who listened and understood, just like Bridget did.
5. First impressions can be deceiving.
Whether you’re meeting a possible love interest or a new co-worker, keep in mind that sometimes, people wear ugly sweaters for a reason (their mothers made them? Everything else was dirty?). First impressions are important, but they can be a b*tch sometimes – Bridget learned that the hard way, after almost losing a chance at love because he looked (and momentarily acted), well, kinda dull.
6. Cherish your friends.
I was way more impressed by Bridget’s friends than by all her love interests (yes, Mark Darcy included). Bridget and her friends had emergency meetings whenever one of them needed support, called eachother at all times, were always there to give (and get) some tough love and advice when needed, and really, were just… there. Solid friendships like these are underrated, and I think the book pays homage to them, in a way.